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You have heard that it was said, 'You shall not commit adultery;'                but I tell you that everyone who gazes at a woman to lust after her has committed adultery with her already in his heart.                If your right eye causes you to stumble, pluck it out and throw it away from you. For it is more profitable for you that one of your members should perish, than for your whole body to be cast into Gehenna.                If your right hand causes you to stumble, cut it off, and throw it away from you. For it is more profitable for you that one of your members should perish, than for your whole body to be cast into Gehenna.                'It was also said, 'Whoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorce,'                but I tell you that whoever puts away his wife, except for the cause of sexual immorality, makes her an adulteress; and whoever marries her when she is put away commits adultery.                'Again you have heard that it was said to them of old time, 'You shall not make false vows, but shall perform to the Lord your vows,'                but I tell you, don't swear at all: neither by heaven, for it is the throne of God;                nor by the earth, for it is the footstool of his feet; nor by Jerusalem, for it is the city of the great King.                Neither shall you swear by your head, for you can't make one hair white or black.                But let your 'Yes' be 'Yes' and your 'No' be 'No.' Whatever is more than these is of the evil one.                'You have heard that it was said, 'An eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth.'*                But I tell you, don't resist him who is evil; but whoever strikes you on your right cheek, turn to him the other also.                If anyone sues you to take away your coat, let him have your cloak also.                Whoever compels you to go one mile, go with him two.                Give to him who asks you, and don't turn away him who desires to borrow from you.                'You have heard that it was said, 'You shall love your neighbor,* and hate your enemy.*'                But I tell you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who mistreat you and persecute you,                that you may be children of your Father who is in heaven.               
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QUESTION:

In your answer to a question about Orthodox weddings, you said that an Orthodox believer could not be married in an Orthodox ceremony unless the partner was also baptized. The person who asked the question plainly said they were not a Christian. Does this mean that the Church would consider baptizing a professed non-believer just so they could participate in a ceremony?

I am currently a catechumen of the Church, and no expert, but I always thought being a Christian was really a matter of the heart, a personal decision that once made must change and color everything in your life, or it is worth nothing, no matter what ceremony or sacrament you participate in.

ANSWER:

It is a fact that an Orthodox Christian cannot marry a non-baptized individual in an Orthodox ceremony.

Baptism, as a sacrament of initiation, is a spiritual birth, our entrance into the Church -- a very serious matter. In no way does my answer imply that the Church would ever baptize a non-baptized individual simply so they could participate in a wedding in an Orthodox Church.

In answering these questions -- the answers as they appear on the web site are often shortened and edited -- I do try to leave the door open to the possibility of a genuine conversion and desire to seek baptism, and I usually end such questions in my personal answer to them by putting the questioner in contact with the nearest priest with whom they can discuss their concerns and specific situation personally.

In 25 years of priesthood, I have seen a number of non-baptized individuals in such circumstances come to the Church, take instruction, actively participate in the parish community, and eventually seek baptism -- and in every case, so far as I can know, these individuals remain active in the worship and fellowship of the Church, sometimes with greater fervency and piety than their cradle Orthodox spouses.

The Church tries to leave every door open to those who, through their relationship with an Orthodox Christian, might find themselves seriously and honestly drawn to Christ and His Holy Church.

Regardless, an Orthodox Christian cannot marry a non-baptized individual in an Orthodox ceremony, even if the non-baptized individual professes Christ. From the Orthodox perspective, if one does profess Christ yet refuses to be baptized, he/she is in a sense rejecting participation in the death and resurrection of Christ, as Saint Paul calls it, while also ignoring Our Lord's words concerning the importance of being "born again of water and the Spirit."






Published in January 2011.









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